Location, location, location! Some people believe they just kept finding the wrong people to date over and over again. It might not just be bad luck. In fact, often times it’s where more than who we date. Where you find a date does in fact determine the general traits of the person you’ll meet, and while there are exceptions to the rule, it is important to keep in mind certain locations will generally only allow you to meet certain types of people.

For example, if someone is looking for a christian to date, and heads out to the local athiest club, they obviously will have a hard time finding anyone. While that example may be a bit extreme, some people’s dating methods are quite on par with that. Many women may shout “why can’t I find any nice guys?” and then summarily head out to one of the raunchiest night clubs in town.

The idea is simple: in bars, you’ll tend to find more potential alcoholics. In clubs, you tend to find more easygoing people who are actively looking for dates. In churches you find christians, in mosques you find muslims. It’s not a hard concept to grasp.

If someone wants to find a different type of partner than they usually end up with, perhaps it’s time to change the routine. Go to the local church fellowship group, instead of the seedy club downtown. Go to sporting events instead of some friend’s hardcore party. Or vice versa, depending on what that person wants from a relationship.

It could even go so far as changing careers, if you tend to only hook up with other coworkers. Perhaps you’re interested in a different personality type than the type that goes into your current career path.

Taking it a step further, the type of friends you hang out with, often determines the location to hang out in, so choosing to hang out with sports crazy friends  will provide more opportunities to meet people interested in sports, whereas friends who enjoy clubbing will tend to frequent those places. It’s a truly common sense idea, but one most people do not frequently think about.

Ultimately, location plays a major factor in determining who we will meet, and why people go to that location, predetermines the characteristics of the person who is there. There are exceptions, but life is too short to wait for that exception to walk into the bar, club, or other place that may not be suited to the type of person being searched for.